Monday Montage: Priorities

I did something crazy last week. I deleted the Facebook app off my phone. I would like to say that it was easy and I didn’t feel the need to re-download it almost immediately, but I have a policy of being honest on this blog and it was HARD!  I decide that I would only use Facebook on my actual computer in an effort to cut down on the times I checked it during the day. It was like an addiction, well maybe not that extreme, but pretty close.

This decision to keep my phone out of my hands for at least part of the 24 hours in a day came after much thought and frustration with myself. How many times had Z said to me, “Mom, put down your phone”,  More than I care to admit, even to myself. It’ painful sometimes to realize that our actions as parents so directly affect our children, even something as simple as looking at your phone too much. My phone time was unhealthy and I was not able to live in the present. I felt like I was just looking for the next interesting status update on Facebook instead of my what was around me. It’s sad and pathetic, I know. But, I have made it through a week and feel like my ability to focus on my family and our time together.

Who knows if this change of priorities will last… Maybe I will start carrying my lap top around in my purse.  Or maybe I will just use my phone as it should be used, for photos, Instagram, and blogging. Oh, wait, I guess phone calls and texts should be on that list, too.

Now that I have spilled my guts, here are the photos that I have taken for the week. I hope you enjoy them!

This face. This girl is why I decided to put my phone down more often.
This face. This girl is why I decided to put my phone down more often.
The view near one of our favorite pizza places, Pizza 2000.   Yummm... Pizza.
The view near one of our favorite pizza places, Pizza 2000. Yummm… Pizza.
The sunset on one of the nights in Krabi. For more beautiful sunsets around the world, check out this post from Travel Tales of Life.
The sunset on one of the nights in Krabi. For more beautiful sunsets around the world, check out this post from Travel Tales of Life.
Sunset in Phuket Town. It was such perfect weather this past weekend.
Sunset in Phuket Town. It was such perfect weather this past weekend.

 

What are your thoughts on the amount of time others (or you) spend on the phone? Have you ever tried to disconnect from social media? Or, maybe you want to leave a comment and make me feel a little less horrible about letting my phone take over my time… feel free to be nice, encouraging, and supportive. 

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  35 comments for “Monday Montage: Priorities

  1. Kate
    August 18, 2014 at 10:41 pm

    I’m right there with you! It’s tricky to balance–I find it easy to keep it away when we are traveling and out adventuring, but just “normal” days at home–I feel like I’m always going for the phone to check—anything…New thing is to plan out my day with the most important tasks & a schedule of sorts so that I’m more apt to stay focused to get things accomplished. Good luck!

    • andthreetogo
      August 18, 2014 at 11:16 pm

      I agree, the time at home is my downfall when it comes to phone time. Having to pick up the laptop has actually made it a bit more difficult to plug in, so that’s good.

  2. mamabyfire
    August 18, 2014 at 10:48 pm

    As I am reading this, my husband and I are glued to our phones while our kids play, I feel that I too, may have a problem. I’ve been a lot more aware of it lately. So I guess first is admitting the problem, then doing something about it.

    • andthreetogo
      August 18, 2014 at 11:18 pm

      It is really hard in present times to not always be looking at a screen of some sort. And in many ways it is necessary to our daily lives, but Facebook on my phone was one of the things that I knew wasn’t really adding to my life, just taking me away from it. Of course, I have been sitting on my computer all night since Z went to bed… oh well, it’s a start.

  3. Less to More
    August 19, 2014 at 12:09 am

    Thoughts about my use of social media have been stewing around in my brain for a while. I know it’s not bad to be on it, but it’s how I use it and when I use it … that’s going to have a direct effect on me and on my family. Good for you for taking that step! We start to think that we’ll miss something if we don’t check the latest status updates or latest tweets, but fail to realize we may be missing out on something more, like the people we love around us.

    • andthreetogo
      August 19, 2014 at 6:30 am

      I think my phone usage probably would have been okay, except for the fact that it takes all my focus. I really do not hear those around me when I’m focused on Facebook. It’s weird.

  4. Bronwyn Joy @ Journeys Of The Fabulist
    August 19, 2014 at 1:06 am

    Well! You know I just had a whole post about how I prioritise online stuff!

    It is easy to get sucked in – there’s always something new, and let’s face it, even the blandest Facebook status update is more stimulating than the millionth rendition of Let It Go (still going with that one here, though starting to get some variation). I think taking it on to the lap top is a good strategy. I tend to do that and it’s so much more efficient as well that now the little phone screen annoys me a bit to use. You need to get your thumb out of practice 🙂

    • andthreetogo
      August 19, 2014 at 6:42 am

      I loved how you times your list of social media things. And luckily let it go has passed in this house. Z has been going through a stage and getting upset at any kind of stress in any show. That means pretty much anything but Daniel tiger is not being watched here (such a nice change).
      I don’t think my WordPress and twitter apps will let me rest my thumbs, but keeping myself to only using Facebook on my lap top once or twice a day has saved me so much time. It’s been a week so we shall see how long I can make it.

      • Bronwyn Joy @ Journeys Of The Fabulist
        August 19, 2014 at 8:38 am

        Good luck!

  5. Sue Slaght
    August 19, 2014 at 1:07 am

    I spend a huge amount of time checking the various social medias and my blog. To think there was a time in my life i couldn’t turn on a computer astounds me. good for you to find some balance.
    I so appreciate your high lighting my post. What a generous thing to do. Much appreciated!

    • andthreetogo
      August 19, 2014 at 6:44 am

      At least now my social media use is mostly for my blog, not just supposed boredom or something.
      Of course! Beautiful sunsets and great writing need to be shared. 🙂

  6. Patti Mitchell
    August 19, 2014 at 1:28 am

    Part of the reason i quit facebook was because i was starting to think in facebook post talk: “putting laundry in the dryer” became a status is my head….something definitely wrong there 🙂 there was more to giving it up but i figured if it took up that much of my thoughts- even when i wasnt on it- something had to change. Keep up the good work!

    • andthreetogo
      August 19, 2014 at 6:48 am

      It can be very insidious. Keeping it only on my computer is really helpful though. I can’t give it up completely because it is a line to all my family and friends, not only back home but everywhere we have been. But still, keeping my time on it to less than before has been really a time saver and has made me way more present with Z during the day. 🙂

  7. joylovestravel
    August 19, 2014 at 2:12 am

    I can’t remember how I survived without social media – totally get where you’re coming from!!

    • andthreetogo
      August 19, 2014 at 6:50 am

      I cannot either which is why I have not given up on it completely. Haha 🙂 It is part of our lives and world now, there is no real escape and I am okay with that. I just need to be better about not giving all my time to it. 🙂

  8. tieshka
    August 19, 2014 at 3:26 am

    I make it a point not to pick up my phone while sitting with my kids at the dinner table… otherwise I do want to just take a quick peak. Good for you to delete FB from your phone (and good luck keeping it off)! 🙂 Have a good week.

    • andthreetogo
      August 19, 2014 at 6:52 am

      That was the first thing I did, was no phone at meals (that was a hard one too), chad, z, and I would all be looking at screens and not at each other sometimes!
      It will be the keeping it off, or just limiting my time on it if I do put it back on someday that will be the test. 🙂

  9. Nomibug
    August 19, 2014 at 7:10 am

    I’m with you… I think it’s a great experiment to see how you go without it on your phone for a while and how your life changes. I’ve just decided not to sleep with my phone on my bedside table… I was being woken by Facebook/Blog messages/statuses during the night and had actually started replying to them while half asleep at 3am. Lol… like everything, it’s all about finding a balance hey 🙂

    • andthreetogo
      August 19, 2014 at 7:17 am

      Exactly! Thanks for the comment!

      • Nomibug
        August 19, 2014 at 7:24 am

        No worries… I’ll be interested to hear your conclusions 🙂

  10. thehomeschoolingdoctor
    August 19, 2014 at 7:50 am

    Get pregnant and have a baby. You’ll streamline really fast…

    Z is beautiful. We get no second chances really with our kids and our spouses deserve our active attention.

    Thanks for the sunset and pizza view! I prefer the view OF the pizza.

    • andthreetogo
      August 19, 2014 at 8:08 am

      I always eat the pizza too quick to take a picture haha. 🙂

  11. Christy @ kidsrsimple.com
    August 19, 2014 at 8:08 am

    You made a good move to delete that blue thing!! I agree it’s a time waster and I find myself clicking on it several times within a 10 min time frame. I did not delete it but move it to a back screen on my phone so that it is not appearing on my home screen. I am tempted to turn off the notification too but was worried I have urgent fb msg. I made a pact to myself that I will not check on my phone in front of the kids. But I think deleting could be more effective.

    • andthreetogo
      August 19, 2014 at 9:25 am

      I just let everyone know to text or call me if there was an emergency. Everyone that knows me well enough to know my number are the only ones that would have an emergency anyways. 🙂
      Each person is different and what works for me won’t work for all, and some lucky people don’t have an issue with it anyways (are there any people not hooked on Facebook? Maybe not) 🙂

  12. Lani
    August 19, 2014 at 12:39 pm

    Wow. I tweeted your post. But I put the most powerful quote as the title, “Mom, put down your phone.” Gotta love kids.

    One of the reasons why I don’t have a smart phone is: I don’t want to spend my money on it, and I don’t want to be plugged into social media 7/11.

    Good for you. I hope you can keep that app off your phone. I’m also participating in not liking fb posts. Here’s the article: https://medium.com/@schmutzie/i-quit-liking-things-on-facebook-for-two-weeks-heres-how-it-changed-my-view-of-humanity-29b5102abace

    I like the idea. Let’s see if it lasts 😛

    • andthreetogo
      August 19, 2014 at 1:17 pm

      Thanks so much!
      I use Facebook a lot for my blog and to keep in contact with my family and friends, but keeping it off my phone has cut my time on it immensely.

  13. Valerie
    August 20, 2014 at 1:18 am

    Good for you!!
    Yeah, I may not have a smartphone (nor do I want one!) but I certainly can carry my laptop around with me too much. 🙁 I have been prioritizing as well and making some changes. 🙂

    • andthreetogo
      August 20, 2014 at 9:15 am

      I think many people are getting to the point where social media is too much. Every once in a while it is good to take a step back. 🙂

  14. expatlingo
    August 20, 2014 at 1:44 pm

    Was nice to have a mini-break over summer since I didn’t have “data” on my pre-paid sim in the US. Now that I have data again, I too am checking too much. My excuse is that it’s a crutch to get through the first strange weeks in a new place…

    • andthreetogo
      August 20, 2014 at 2:09 pm

      I would definitely use that as a way to acclimate! Honestly if I could still multiple task and hear z talking to me when I was looking at my phone, I wouldn’t even consider changing my Facebook habits.

  15. Flora Jon
    August 20, 2014 at 6:38 pm

    Z has a point there. 😀 At least it’ll be a lesson learned for you right?

    • andthreetogo
      August 20, 2014 at 8:34 pm

      Isn’t motherhood one huge learning experience? haha. This is just one of the many I guess. 🙂

  16. freebutfun
    August 21, 2014 at 1:33 am

    I’ve re-evaluated my use of the mobile too, last spring, when my son started to miss me ( blogged about it…) and my brother got allergic to electricity; I decided not to use my phone at all after work until the kids were in bed, only important phone calls allowed but even those I tried to cut down. And it made a difference! I am a bit more relaxed about that during weekends and holidays though.
    on weekends we spend together with my brother we have to put our mobiles away (also no lights, timing when to cook…). For us the best thing ever (a hassle for him and his wife when it’s there everyday life, of course): we realized we are so much more social without anyone all the time checking something on the phone and when no other “gadget” is used. I also feel much more relaxed after those weekends! I guess we just end up spending quality time together.

    • andthreetogo
      August 21, 2014 at 10:03 am

      Allergic to electricity?! I’ve never heard if that. My goodness that would be so difficult! I have found that I look for more fun things to do with my family now as I am not plugged in as much. 🙂

      • freebutfun
        August 22, 2014 at 1:06 am

        Yes, pretty restricting (lucky he is an architect so now he has the challenge of a life time to create a house that fits him 🙂 ), but it has had the positive effect of getting us interacting more!

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