Ask Jenny: The Hard Questions



‘Ask Jenny’ is a series where you can ask me about our travels, logistics, parenting on the road, my life before travel, or whatever else you have a question about. You can leave your question(s) here at the end of my post in the comments section. Once a month, I will write a post to answer one (or more) of them. The only rule I will have is that the questions be kind.

I will admit, I have had so much fun answering all of the questions you have asked during my ‘Ask Jenny’ series. All of them have been fun and easy to answer. But, there are two questions left that I have been pushing back on because they are the hard questions, the hard-hitting questions that are a bit more of a struggle to answer. The questions are tough, but awesome! These questions are so good, I think I may ask Chad to answer them as well next week. What do you think?

1.From the adventurous and fun Sha at Life to My Fullest:

Why South East Asia and not somewhere closer to home?

Right now we are staying in Phuket, Thailand for the near future. Chad traveled to Thailand over ten years ago and fell in love with everything about it. Two years after that, he and I traveled for a month in Thailand on our “honeymoon” before we moved to Taiwan to teach English. I fell in love with it as well. Even now after we have traveled around the world a couple of times, it is one of my top three favorite places in the world (Portugal, Thailand, Taiwan).

Southeast Asia in general (although I would not include Singapore in this) is less expensive to live in. Every country I have visited in SE Asia has had amazing food (Malaysia is a little meh to me, but the Indian food there is drool worthy), beautiful sites to see, and great weather for most of the year. I love hot weather! I love beaches! I love being able to travel cheaply from one country to another.

It is much easier and cheaper to get from one country to the next (in comparison to USA at least) here in Phuket. Phuket International airport makes it so easy to travel anywhere in the world and is just an hour away from where we stay.

Overall the main reasons I love to live in Southeast Asia (Thailand) right now are these: 1)Wonderfully warm weather, 2) Delicious food, and 3) fascinating cultures and people.

And with that I think I will hop on over to question number two..

2. From the lovely Jhanis at The Vanilla Housewife:

If you were to settle in one place, is it going to be in the US or somewhere else?

Jhanis, you cut me to the core with this one. I admit that thinking of settling ANYWHERE gives me mild heart palpitations. There is probably someone out there that has some psychological theory as to why I like to be on the move all the time, but that has always been the way I am. I love change, meeting new people, trying new foods (might even say that is my favorite part of it), immersing myself in new places and cultures, and it goes on.

In writing this though, I know that soon we will need to settle in one place for a while. Z is getting older and asking about school. She is social and loves having friends. She loves to travel, but she also LOVES to be home. For these reasons, it makes it a little less panicky for me to think about settling somewhere (as long as we travel to new places often occasionally). The happiness of my daughter and husband are way more important to me than anything else.

Where in the world do I want to settle?
Where in the world do I want to settle? “Eckert4” by Ktrinko – Own work. Licensed under CC0 via Wikimedia Commons

So, that leads me to where do I think we will settle when the time comes… Okay, all I can mentally do is choose a possible place for the next 5-10 years, because beyond that it really makes me freak out. So much can change in that amount of time. And, on top of that,  I will choose two places, one practical, and one that I think would be more fun (I don’t want to jinx myself by choosing just one).

  • The Practical Choice: USA. Reasons: As much as I dislike America’s politics, fear-mongering, war-waging, overpriced living, and exorbitant taxes, I am still an American and there are some of my favorite people on this earth living in California. There are job opportunities for Chad and I, amazing Waldorf schools to send Z to, and the ease of living in a place where we never have to worry about visas.
  • The Fun Choice: Thailand.  Reasons: The cost of living here is much less than California. Z could learn to speak Thai and Chinese easily here. The beaches. The food. The people and culture. I love most of what Thailand is about. I love the people who I have come to know here. There are great international schools here for Z, though none that use the Waldorf method. I think the thing I love most about settling in Thailand is that I still feel out-of-place. I love living in a foreign country, even with the cultural hiccups that happen along the way, I love the excitement of being in a “strange” place.

So there you have it, my answer is a complete non-answer I know… But I hate to back myself into a corner. Most likely we will end up somewhere completely different than I have even ever thought of. Our future is always up in the air until it isn’t.

Thank you to Jhanis and Sha for the excellent and thought-provoking questions! For all of you that have not checked out their blogs, DO IT! They are both awesome ladies whose posts are engaging and exciting.

Now it’s your turn! Do you have any questions for us at And Three To Go? Where would you like to live? Do you want to travel to Southeast Asia? Leave a comment and join in the fun!

  23 comments for “Ask Jenny: The Hard Questions

  1. Sha
    February 13, 2015 at 10:44 pm

    Haha, didn’t realise I was putting you through the wringer by posing that question..I was just curious, really!…but I totally get loving the cheaper side of SEA (excluding Singapore of course) haha…I do the same thing too! When I’m on budget (which seems to be all the time), I can still enjoy an awesome break at a cheaper cost.

    But I can see it can be hard to make a decision soon about the school so how about trying out the schools in Thailand first and if it does not work out, you can always fall back on your other option? Oh no! It’s another thought provoking question. I’ll need to prepare an easier one next time..hahaha

    • andthreetogo
      February 13, 2015 at 11:11 pm

      Hahah! You make me laugh. I think that will probably be what happens… Try it out here for a while and then possibly go back to the States (or if I get a vote at that time… Spain hahah)

  2. thetattootourist
    February 13, 2015 at 11:06 pm

    I wish I had a cool question for you but alas…my travelling days are done until I finish up the whole child-rearing/homeschooling thing (ooo I outed myself). I live in California and although we very frequently discuss leaving the ease of a home-based Waldorf education including great satellite charter schools is one of the reasons we stay.

    • andthreetogo
      February 13, 2015 at 11:10 pm

      That is definitely a draw for me to California . Having been raised (and homeschooled) in California I see how great it was (and is). Thanks for commenting (and outing yourself). I am always glad to get to know you better. 🙂

  3. Lani
    February 14, 2015 at 9:29 am

    Did you know that 2014 was the year that the most Americans renounced their citizenship? As you might guess, taxes was a big reason. We’d love to go back to the US, but the struggle to make ends meet would be overwhelming. It’s not the country that it used to be.

    • andthreetogo
      February 14, 2015 at 10:07 am

      I totally agree. And I am not surprised… Although I heard a rumor that even if you renounce you STILL have to pay taxes for 10 years… That may be an urban legend though.

      • thehomeschoolingdoctor
        February 18, 2015 at 7:20 pm

        We have read on this. I don’t know about the taxes things; I can’t wait to ask hubby when he gets home today! But he has told me of people saying how hard of a time they got trying to get back in to visit after renouncing. Anyone know?

        • andthreetogo
          February 19, 2015 at 9:18 pm

          I know you must get a visa to visit if you renounce. Regardless I plan on keeping my American passport for the foreseeable future 🙂 maybe haha

          • thehomeschoolingdoctor
            February 22, 2015 at 8:40 am

            Seems like a good idea to keep it for now!

  4. freebutfun
    February 14, 2015 at 1:04 pm

    But isn’t it so that we can plan all we want and them life happens and it may turn out quite good anyway?  

    • andthreetogo
      February 14, 2015 at 2:29 pm

      This is very true… 🙂 I honestly would rather not ever move back to the States though, it may just end up being necessary. 🙂 it may still be quite good though like you said.

  5. Bronwyn Joy @ Journeys Of The Fabulist
    February 15, 2015 at 8:38 am

    I know people plan further out than 5-10 years all the time, but I can’t quite get my head around it.

    Although that said, I admit I do find it fun to *plan*. I just don’t find it fun to be expected to stick to the plan. Or to follow the plan.

    We’ll see where you three end up, I guess!

    • andthreetogo
      February 15, 2015 at 8:51 am

      That is exactly how I feel! I actually love to plan and dream… I Just start freaking out when it all become real… At least for a little while.

      • Bronwyn Joy @ Journeys Of The Fabulist
        February 15, 2015 at 8:52 am

        Yes, making it concrete is always the scary step.

  6. expatlingo
    February 16, 2015 at 3:27 am

    I feel exactly the same (but replace California with Seattle). (And you’re reminded me again that I need to get to Taiwan!)

    • andthreetogo
      February 16, 2015 at 6:38 pm

      I am glad I’m not alone 🙂

  7. thebritishberliner
    February 16, 2015 at 4:49 pm

    I think Thailand or anywhere in Asia really, would be a fantastic place to bring up a child. The culture is amazing, it’s child-friendly, the international schools are of good quality, and the prices are low. Another place I’d recommend is Singapore or Hong Kong. And if you’re really tired of Asia, come to Europe LOL!

    • andthreetogo
      February 16, 2015 at 6:39 pm

      Europe is always on my mind 🙂 I agree with you about Asia. 🙂

  8. Leslie from Harris Hippies
    February 18, 2015 at 1:46 pm

    Ah! Such hard but good questions. We have been mulling over these same questions — and all the subquestions that come up from that thinking and discussing — especially so this last year since Louis joined the family.

    • andthreetogo
      February 18, 2015 at 5:17 pm

      It’s funny how having little ones can change your goals and dreams. 🙂 well, maybe not so much those, but will change your response to them kind of.

  9. thehomeschoolingdoctor
    February 18, 2015 at 7:23 pm

    If I could settle one place and not have to worry about the sad changing socioeconomic downturn of my home county, I’d return to my family’s small family farm in Northern Indiana. And travel lots, always returning to that little white house with green trim surrounded by trees and green grass.

    • andthreetogo
      February 19, 2015 at 9:19 pm

      That is awesome! I can imagine it’s perfection! Sounds like home!

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